Bond, in his own words “”As a gay man in New York City, the biggest challenge I continually face is my own mind. Like many others, I carry the emotional scars that stem from a childhood of feeling like an outsider. In my case, not only for being gay, but also for being an Asian American in a predominantly Caucasian society. After going through college and living in New York City for more than 5 years, I have learned to accept and embrace both my sexuality and race. I’ve also come to realize that what I viewed as my personal weaknesses, were also the same things that pushed me and motivated me to succeed both academically and professionally. However, the scars do remain. In a city like New York, it’s very easy to have feelings of inadequacy by constantly comparing myself and my achievements to that of others; and using that as a benchmark for my own personal success. This sense of competition can make those scars glaringly visible. I have recognized this over the years and continually strive to improve by finding happiness within myself – independent of external validation. In the life journey of discovering myself in all facets, I have to say that I’m not quite where I want to be just yet; but I can say I’ve come a long way and will continue to push forward.”
Hi Bond,
Very truely (and well) said!
If we could leave competition to sports!
Agreed!
Self evaluation is awesome! but not at the expense of others!
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