I came out when I was 20 to my Dad while we were on a long car ride. I was talking about Judith Butler and
social constructions of identity, and then next thing I know I am telling my father that I’m gay! I remember he pulled over to the side of the road and I cried for a really long time. He told me that he loved me, and that nothing would change that. I had never breathed that deeply or cried with so much relief. In an instant I felt so much more myself, and so much more felt possible.

The feelings I had about my sexuality as a kid and the empowerment that came from coming out, inform my decision to be outspoken about my sexuality as an adult. If I’d had a role model or someone close to me that could of reassured me that things were going to work out, I would have been so much happier in my adolescent years.

I’m still pretty new to New York, but what I’ve experienced has been cool. Having worked at a gay bar in San Francisco and been involved in the scene at a number of levels, New York definitely brings something else to the table. I really like the diversity especially amongst young queer identifying folk in Brooklyn. With work and school, I’m not quite as much of a party boy as I once was. You might see me at Metropolitan or One Last Shag from time to time. Say hi.