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About thegaymenproject

The Gay Men Project is a photo project by New York based photographer Kevin Truong. Truong received his BFA in from photography from the Pratt Institute in Brooklyn, NY, and has been the recipient of numerous awards, and his photo credits include the New York Times.

Yoshi and Bill, Gallery Owners, Vancouver B.C.

photo by Kevin Truong

Bill, in his own words: “(With regards to being gay) Well an easy answer to that would be I feel like a Mac in a PC world. Which is pretty much held true for the last 20 or 30 years. The Macintosh computer (being gay) allowed me to do things that otherwise I would not have thought possible. The world up until recently saw things in a mechanical binary black or white either/or light. Straight/Gay. Very PC. Light has many colors!

As soon as I got comfortable with myself, I was off and running. Traveling all over the world. Escaping AIDS was the incentive to get out and live a truly excellent life. I had magically escaped the bullet. I was spared for this purpose.

The big challenge for me is always to stay in the moment. It is still very easy for me to terrorize myself with the past and the future. Keeping focused on the things that are important in the moment. In the context of love and sharing.

(The gay community in Vancouver is) Spread wide and far, usually you find community where living is cheap and cheerful. Not much of that in Vancouver. We meet in local coffee house or bars and establish small networks of friends . Pretty standard arrangements.

(My coming out story) was pretty much covered in the David Leddick interview that I did about 2003. Here is the link to that interview

my coming out

Probably TMI

(If I could give advice to myself before coming out) Truth is in the doing and being. Look for it now.”

Yoshi, in his own words” “Hula has changed my perspective on life. The teachings of hula are the teachings of life. They are learned using your six senses and your whole being as you get in harmony with nature. I realized what the hula has taught me is crucial to me as a photographer and an artist. It is about loving all things that nature provides, being compassionate and cooperative, respecting each other, and nurturing a sincere and humble heart. It is far more important to reshape one’s state of mind than to learn to do the dance moves. When one frees their mind, they start to dance with spontaneous and innocent smiles like children. I consider the hula to be a lifelong learning, and I want to share this love (“aloha”) with people. During my stay in Hawaii, I learned the hula and performed at numerous events. Although I am not designated as a hula teacher (“kumu”) and am still in the process of learning the hula myself, a friend of mine gathered up her friends and asked me to teach them. The hula family has grown by word of mouth, and I have the privilege of teaching 2 classes a week to 20 members (as of 2009). When I left Hawaii, my hula teacher said to me “Hula needs individuals who strive to raise their consciousness, and I know you will meet those people in Vancouver.” As it turns out, most of my students are involved in things such as Reiki, Qigong, Kabbalah(?) (numerology), and other forms of healing or study to better themselves and help others. I have become who I am today because of my hula family, and I’m so grateful to have met them.

(If I could give myself advice before coming out) My advice to myself would be “you are born free”

Andy and Mark, with their son Ben, Baltimore

photo by Kevin Truong

Andy, in his own words: “We have been together 18 years, or as I like to joke, 10 happy years.

I was in the audience when I first spotted Mark, playing the role of Mother Abbess in a campy version of the Sound of Music. Wearing a habit, Mark brought down the house with his falsetto rendition of “Climb Every Mountain.” “You’ve got to find the life you were born to live.”

I came out late, tragically and comically looking into all kinds of conversion programs before coming to terms with my sexuality while in graduate school at UNC- Chapel Hill. With two gay sisters, Mark came out earlier to himself but to his parents only after meeting me.

In 2001, Mark and I returned from Vietnam with our five month old son, Ben. Shy with adults but popular with his peers, Ben is bright, athletic and an expert on advanced weapons systems. Mark created the coolest back yard in Baltimore for Ben, complete with trampoline, zip line, tree house and water slide. Our house is always filled with the sounds of young boys laughing, having gun battles or discussing the latest Bond film.

My dad moved in last year, adding a third loving generation to the family.”

A Note From Pakistan…

“I live in Pakistan. I’m 18 years old. I’m student of BS computer. Story is about gay life of a teenager. At the age of 15 he came to know that he is gay. He feel that he is different from other boys . His way of thinking is different like his brother and cousins. After some time he like a boy of age 18 ,he was his neighbor. He eagerly want to be his boyfriend . Then after repeated tries he succeed. Then some time he spend with him. Then Ayaan his name then they sex when Ayaan elder brother came to know then they have breakup. Then his family always say ur r bad boy Ayaan very bad boy. Ayaan want to become bold model but his parents not allow him join showbiz.

Ok. Next part of story. Ayaan feel very upset all time and request to God why I’m gay. Y I’m not normal man. My parents even don’t like me. Ayaan want to live normal simple life but some time he can not control and he want to find boyfriend. He like muscular sincere boyfriend. He feel I’m the badest boy in the world. He was very depressed and then he leave his house and he join the gay club mean pay for sex. He became popular in the city because of his ass. And when his parents came to know they kill him. He was killed just because he was gay. Ayyan always say that I’m gay. Being gay is not a disease .but at very young age he was killed. Because his family feel shame of him.”