Without hesitating my dad said that there was nothing wrong with me and that of course I was different from everyone else, that that’s something we all have in common, differences. Then my mom asked me if I knew exactly what those kids were talking about, I said “I think they were saying I’m gay” and she said no one had the right to tell me what I am, and that if I actually was it was only a part of me to be proud of, like my brown eyes and my large ears. I slept like a baby that night.
I never came out, I just never felt like I had to tell anyone that I’m into guys and not girls, my friends and family know I’m gay because they asked and I said yes; at first I think I avoided confrontation fearing rejection, but happily that didn’t last long, the thing is I grew up surrounded by loving people, I know I’m extremely lucky because of this, and thanks to that I’m a proud young man, kind and confident and in the search of true happiness.
I’m not really in touch with the gay community in Buenos Aires, I try to be aware of what’s happening all the time but I keep my distance, because I respect it so much, I’m still trying to understand myself and when I feel ready I know I want to take an active part in it; years ago I decided I wouldn’t let my sexuality define who I am and I know that people fighting for our rights have been responsible for this being possible and I’m so thankful, but I guess the truth was, until a few years ago, I didn’t want to belong to anything, I just wanted to be free. When the night the marriage equality bill passed I decided I wanted to be there to see it, so I stayed up all night waiting for the results in la Plaza del Congresso, happy, knowing that history was about to happen and that many people were closer to equality in the country I decided to call home. That night I discovered that in order to be happily different everybody has to have chances in life.
I think the only thing I would advise my younger self would be to trust more in people, it took me a while to do it and when it happened I started living life at it’s fullest, closer to happiness surrounded by people whom I love and who love me.”
What a great write-up. Very well phrased, especially by a gentleman so young. Very fortunate to have such great parents. I have spend a great deal of time in Buenos Aires in the last 15 or so years — and am not surprised at such integrity and intelligence. It is partially what attacks me to the city. I am sure that few Americans (or others) know that marriage equality came to Providencia de Buenos Aires before it came to US of A.
And, while I am at it, congtulaions to the [photographer. As usual, quite incredible photos. It is an art.
I had similar life experiences.Continue to be happy and find love with the friends that make you happy.
What beautiful parents and friends you had. And you are beautiful too, inside and out! Thanks for sharing your encouraging story.
Thank you for posting your story. I particularly liked the last two lines (advice to your younger self) which mirrors my own philosophy. Very best wishes for your future – and your film making. Another Xavier Dolan perhaps?
Maravilhoso ! Somos duas pessoas com ótimas famílias. Siga assim sempre, Maurício, e Deus há de protegê-lo. Desejo-lhe muito boa sorte na vida.