photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
That being said, I consider that being gay means that I have an erotic predisposition, either real or imagined, towards the male of my species, regarding its sexual and gender realms.
I would intertwine my challenges and successes with my coming out experience. My biggest challenge was the fulfilling of a sentence built on what was an utterly complicated standpoint: “I am something that is not expected from others”. My process of coming out as a person who has a non normative sexual orientation was firstly an individual struggle. Usually we tend to think that coming out is a process of revealing, which with no doubt is a political understanding of coming out; but one does not come out, actually comes in. My closet was a hidden and nameless face which I had to describe with words untaught. Thus the symbolic act of naming was at the same time my biggest challenge and success. In the end, we are always our worst enemies. Other than that, I was very fortunate to have a lot of disinterested love around me, which indeed played a great part in all this process.
A community is born out of a survival principle. And a gay community is born out of a marginalization phenomenon that originates several spaces of belonging for and/or from those who are put aside, from a cruising spot to an institutionalized NGO. In Lisbon, today, the gay community, and the sense of community, is rather refracted due to the fact that we are no longer facing a survival situation, without taking into consideration the multiple power relations and structures that still affect our citizenship, nationally, such as the adoption rights or the pathologization of transsexual/gender citizens. There are different social organizations with several aims that are vital to the LGBTQ+ visibility and that work fiercely for a voice and a better future for everyone. Lisbon also has an intense nightlife, in which the gay community is diverging from the “gay nightlife” paradigm to a more diversified notion of it. Some venues still preserve a very stereotyped idea of what a gay “place” is, starting from the very idea of “a gay place”. Although I must say that these places have an incomparable aura of safeness for those who might need a place to be. At least what was, and in a way is, Lisbon’s gay neighborhood lost the ghetto frame that usually materializes geographically a gay community.
I think, therefore I deconstruct.
P.S.: Fall in love with yourself if you want to fall in love with other self(ves).”
Olá Rafael, parabéns pelo teu depoimento. É um exemplo de afirmação, cumprindo os objectivos do “THE GAY MEN PROJECT”. Em geral as pessoas ainda não se deram conta que lhes cabe apenas gerir as suas próprias vidas e nada tem contra as opções e a liberdade de escolha da sua condição sexual. Nasce-se assim e ponto final. É preciso criar leis para cobrir os direitos das minorias, este é sobretudo uma conduta repugnante dos homens em geral que deveriam ter mais respeito com os seus semelhantes, porque afinal parece que todos temo telhados de vidro. Não é necessário ou deveria ser necessário escrever na testa que se é gay, preto, isto e aquilo. Que ideia tão hipócrita, fruto de uma educação promovida no sentido de obrigar as pessoas (sociedade) a prosseguir no universo heterossexual, como se isso fosse lei universal emanada de um punhado de idiotas religiosos. De certeza que a tua contribuição ajuda não só para que os cépticos possam moldar a sua personalidade, mas também um incentivo para todos aqueles que não vivendo numa cidade onde existe mais liberdade, no interior possam ultrapassar a sua condição de gay e serem aceites, sem serem vítimas dos demais. Mas essa cultura (a do respeito) ainda tem muito que caminhar, existe muito trabalho no terreno e esse não tem sido muito fácil quando vivemos numa cultura de descrédito e cinismo, onde se faz propaganda do que é efémero e do que é inútil. Cito por exemplo a comunicação social em geral que trata estes e outros temas fraturantes de forma escabrosa e indigna, para além de fazer a cabeça das pessoas orientando-as para opções do ridículo. Enfim, é o Portugal que temos e vamos tendo, quase que posso afirmar que infelizmente deixamos de ser exemplo para o quer que seja, mas isso sou eu a desabafar. Mais uma vez parabéns pelo teu depoimento. Abraço.
Excellent you and your words…..Lisbon is a very very beautiful city….
hi, you are very handsome guy! ) greetings from Czech republic. ) http://www.iboys.cz/Ardo