Monthly Archives: August 2015
Manuel, Opera Singer, Lisbon, Portugal
(With regards to successes) Personally: long term relations
Professionally: I have achieved what I proposed myself to be/ do
(With regards to challenges:) To stay true to myself and to my beliefs.
I really didn’t have (a coming out story). I have never lied about my sexual orientation, didn’t need to. First because I believe my sexual life only matters to me and to whom I’m with, and second, because I feel very comfortable with it.
It’s very comfortable to be gay in Lisbon, people are gay friendly (most of them 🙂 there are many places to go to, mixed and gay, it’s not as strict and rigid, as in some other countries, people normally do get very comfortable and enjoy being with everybody. It’s a gay friendly city.
(Advice to my younger self) Always be yourself, try not to think of what others may think of you, of your sexual orientation, it’s part of you, but shouldn’t be what defines you. You are much more than that. Make others respect you for what you are, not only for what your sexual orientation is.”
Jakub, Counselor, Prague, Czech Republic
Surviving elementary school was my first great success. I was bullied that time and finding another world outside my school actually brought me many friends and options as well. It shaped my life to who I am now. Although I’ve never thought I would be active in the gay rights, suddenly my friends told me: “Whoa, you are an activist!“ I was never thinking about it like this. I am part of the online LGBT counselling project and Prague Pride team and things are getting bigger and bigger. And I so enjoy being part of the change of our society.
I knew I was different at the age of 12. But I couldn’t name it, that feeling was so strange. My classmates at the elementary school were quicker in understanding what is actually happening. They felt my difference and started calling me a faggot etc. It was the toughest time for me. At the age of 20 I came out to my parents. I think they already knew because my “friend” visited me very often so suddenly he was presented to them as my boyfriend. They were not very happy about it, but they’ve got over it. And (hopefully) my last coming out happened a few weeks ago, at the age of 29, I was interviewed to one of the biggest Czech newspapers about my coming out in order to support the online LGBT counselling project. I had my picture all over the page and guess what – my 90 y/o grandfather, who was the only one from my family who didn’t know – has a subscription. You can figure out the rest of the story…
(The gay community in Prague is) Layered. I tend to be a minority in a minority quite often, being always a little bit different than others. Anyways, while I am friends with gay activists and geeks, I am always curious to meet other tribes. Here you can find twinks, jocks, bears and even those guys who have perfect haircut, fitting shirt, holding a glass of mojito while standing along the riverbank. Otters? Weasels? God knows but you can definitely find all of those types in Prague, especially all together during the Prague Pride march.
(Advice to my younger self) Get over it. Bad crap happens to everybody and you have to get over, because it’s your life.”