Phillip, in his own words: “What I like about being gay is having met thousands of men from all over whom otherwise I never would have met. Gay gives you carte blanche to meet men of different backgrounds. And from this huge variety of men I have built up a great tolerance for individuality, quirks and all. It’s not always easy being gay, no life style is. I’ve found that a sense of humor has saved me, got through terrible times. And since I’m a writer, I’ve David Sedaris-like humor essays to spread the word that funny is saintly.
Also my garden. I’ve had two clinical depressions and a return to my garden every spring has brought me out of those dark times. The darkest time was in the early 80s when AIDS rose its ugly head, and I heard of my friends in the coastal cities dying left and right. So I pulled up my zipper and didn’t have sex for over l0 years—actually I lost count. I was terrified of that disease. Sex was not worth dying for.
Cleveland is great town to raise a family. It’s not so good for gays. The smart, creative ones leave. It seems all I get are married men. So for the dark cold winter months I go to Fort Lauderdale, a paradise for gay men. Men from all over the world descend on Fort Lauderdale for the winter months, and I’ve made life-long friends who come to visit me in Cleveland in the summer in my gorgeous garden. Visit the video of my garden on
YouTube.To read more about me go to my Profile on the Silver Daddies site and enter my profile number #398760.”
Don’t go to Florida for the winter. I’d love to keep you warm. And I’m not married. They are dead ends!!!!! I. Good looking. A bit overweight. (20lbs) you are my kind. Email me djmoen1@yahoo.com
Hi, my message appears rude. I’m 20 lbs overweight, not you! If you want to correspond you have my email. You are very interesting.
Cannot connect to your video. Tech problems
I know what you mean Philip..I live in Massillon, and this past winter nearly killed me!!! I would love to escape to Florida for the winter!! Good luck to you, and PS.. I love to go to Edgewater Park in the Summer..Love the water, and the sunsets there!!
Hi, Philip. Liked your mention to the fact of beeing gay make easy for us to meet men from everywhere – I agree. I travelled a lot in my youth (I´m 67 today) and always preferred to travel alone since it makes one be more open to talk to the persons one meet travelling. Quite nice to hear from you. By the way, no video from your garden, “technical problems”. Rgds, Luiz
You can see my garden video by going to my Silver Daddy website. The URL is there. But here it is just for you now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uf5hJRNZGY&feature=youtu.be
Care to meet?
Phil, it would be a pleasure to meet you if I and my husband (for the past 33 years – and yes, we have been officially married since July 2013 when gay marriage was approved in our country) lived in the US…
But we are brazilians, so… But I reafirm that it was a pleasure to learn some things about you, about what you think and about the life you live.
Kevin (the blogger) deserves our compliments for his initiative of sharing gay men experiences, we learn a lot and – who knows – can make friends from abroad…
Regards to all who joined The Gay Men Project
Luiz
Just wondering if you remember me from Cleveland and Shaker Heights, 1969-71.
Loved the interview. You seem quite centered. Keep the faith!
Fantastic photographs, Phil, to go with a genuine life story. I know you’ll be seeing a lot more of that garden now that it’s getting warmer.
yes, we ALL look great!!! My garden is growing by the foot every day and I’m trying to keep up with it. Next week plan to come for lunch and lay naked out. Bring a friend!!!! Let me know.
What a serendipity to hear from you, to trek through your sexy garden (though Priapus was a prick-tease), to see your handsome photos, and to shimmer with your light on this raw, gray day in western Pennsylvania.