Kevin, in his own words:“For all of the challenges I had growing up gay, I can see now the path being laid out for me. Had I not felt so different from others, I may not have felt the need to leave my conservative hometown for college. If things weren’t tough for me as a closeted gay kid, I may not have studied psychology to figure out myself and learn how to deal with others too.
Had I not felt weird and alone I may not have painted as much, started writing, become absorbed with music and design, or any of the other creative pursuits that I love… If not for all these things combined, I may not have been comfortable eventually coming out to my friends and family, something I was terrified about at the time but was the single best decision I’ve ever made for sure.
Being gay has made all the difference in my life. Though it’s funny to write, I realize now how fortunate I was to grow up feeling weird and awkward… It gave me a unique point of view and forced me to explore the world. In the process of doing so, I developed my confidence, creativity, and capacity for understanding others. Above all else, I formed a really great circle of friends and met the love of my life too. So as tough as it may have been for me to be gay at certain points in my life, I wouldn’t take back any of the challenges I’ve had. They made me who I am and I’m happier for them, definitely.”
Beautiful story and pictures! All good vibes from Mike and Paul in NH!
I am neither gay nor a man but I really love what you wrote. “Had I not been x, I would not have done y.” I really love the perspective that this gives when you examine your life in this way. Things that seemed awful or negative at the time turned out making for interesting experiences. Oh, and I love your kitchen!
Thanks guys, much appreciated! And many thanks to Kevin for giving us the opportunity to share… xoxo
Thanks for the posting. It’s a lovely story. Love to you both.
Having been in a loving & caring partnership for 29 years and 11 months.
My partner died in 1999 almost made the Millennium as was his desire.
Been alone ever since. loneliness is my biggest burden. One day maybe!
love your home too!
TC.London UK :-}
I have not had the joy in my life that you have had with the knowledge that you had early on. I, unfortunately, denied who I was and it cost me the joy that you now feel. I appreciate your words of wisdom and am happy that you have what you do. Your home is beautiful and you are an amazing, handsome and gifted couple. Joy to you both.