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Edu, Quality Assurance Test Leader, Sao Paulo, Brazil

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Edu, in his own words: “I think being gay is just a part of my personality but it is not the main thing about me. I think either gay or straight I would be looking for the same things. You know, I’m a human being who wants to be loved, to grow, to experiment things and so on.
On one hand there is the prejudice explicit or implicit, depending on the culture/city/country you are in, but on the other hand you are free to build your own path in life. You don’t have to necessarily follow the steps the society pre-programmed for you, like to marry, to have kids and to buy a flat in the suburbs. You can choose being single, having an open marriage, spending your money traveling the world because you don’t have kids, or whatever you want to. I notice that many people are afraid of this freedom; they prefer living in the box. For me I see it as a blank canvas I’m free to paint as I please.

My biggest challenge was to go through the bulling I suffered during school time. Bullying is a topic that is much discussed these days, but back in the 80’s it was really complicated to be a shy/nerdy/gay kid. One interesting thing is that I was bullied for being gay before I understand what sexuality was all about or even actually having a sex drive.

My biggest success was to overcome a very limited scenario in which I was born and raised. I was born in a poor family in the suburbs with all its financial difficulties. My parents and grandparents helped me out as much as possible for me to study and to grow as a decent person. I took all chances and I was the first on my family to go to college and have “a real big job”. I am grateful to all of them.

I could define São Paulo gay community in one word: diversity. You can find here the princesses (in Brazil they call them Barbies), bears, indies, hipsters and so on. I find it refreshing because I come from a city in which the only gay archetype that is acceptable it the buffed-all-waxed-suntan-lined-porn-star-look-a-like guy.

Getting out of the closet was complicated just in my head. Once I figured it out and accepted it was all natural. I didn’t have “the conversation” with my mother; my family knew it all along.

(If I could give myself advice before coming out) I would say to myself: “relax and go ahead. It won’t hurt and once you are out they will respect you more than being in the closet.”

William, Graphic Designer, Sao Paulo, Brazil

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William, in his own words: “Being gay for me now means alot of things, and inside these things is being true with myself, happy more than sad. Against all the bad things that happened with a gay guy in school I decided to transform the experience into the power to be whatever I want, but being happy always, and if not I will work hard to find the happiness being myself.

My challenges happened when I decided to study a thing that I knew that in my hometown will not work, that was being a graphic designer in a small city. So I decided to move to São Paulo and needed to work hard to find myself in this city. Now I`m here for 3 years in a relationship and we have our apartament, so I think the things are really working now.

The gay community in São Paulo for me is very cool and diversified, now we have more space than before and its more safer to walk and be whatever you want. But as many cities of the world some things need to change and the people need to be more open minded.

Coming out from the closet was more easy than I thought it would be, my mother and dad now accepts me and my boyfriend very, very well.

(If I could talk to myself before coming out) I could say: Be happy being yourself, no matter what happen.”

Matheus, Fashion Producer, São Paulo, Brazil

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Matheus, in his own words: “Actually I think being gay it’s not something that has a meaning for me, it’s a part of who I am just as being black or being tall.

I think the worst part of being gay it’s trying to fit in and find your place and sometimes being a little bit afraid of other people’s comments and reactions.

The gay community in Brazil in Sao Paulo is very diversed, I think there is a place for everyone twinks, bears, fashionistas and etc… and even for people that don’t like labels. hehehee

When I came out to my family I wanted to tell my father first because we have more of a open and straight foward relationship, but my sister who already knew at the time, convinced me to tell my mother first. My mom literally freaked out, and because of that started a little family war between the two of us, that lasted for almost a year. After things calmed down a little bit I told my father , he wasn’t that open minded, but he was supportive in his own silent way, and for that I’m very thankfull, because after I told him the bickering between me and my mom ended, and things actually started to get better.

Advice I’d give to anyone (who hasn’t come out) is, be patient to others,, it’s a process, sometimes you have to put yourself in someone elses shoes to understand their heads. and just be strong. being gay it’s not the end of the world, it’s just the beggining. hehee”

SILVIO, PROMOTER/DJ, SÃO PAULO, Brazil

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Silvio, in his own words: “Being gay means for me being me, means being human. There’s no meaning, it’s just like being straight. A normal thing!

It was really hard for me to be accepted by my parents, this could be considered as a challenge, but I also consider it as a success. After they knew about it and the dog days were over, I could finally be myself without caring about others opinions. The only people whose opinions was relevant was the people I love and respect.

The gay community in São Paulo is really full of people wanting to be famous, rich, or trying to show they are, even if they aren’t. But I can’t say only the bad things. The Gay community here is really free. After bad thing happened, the attack of homophobics ceased. You can find gay people walking hand in hand on malls, some streets and avenues, supermarkets etc. There’s also a big gay nightlife scene that has got the best parties and clubs!

To come out of the closet was REALLY hard. The moment I told my parents, the chaos was established in my house. My father almost died and my mother cried about a week without stopping. They tried to convince me that I should think better about my “decision” and after I told them that there was no decision, my mom became angry and started to be aggressive. Due to all the suffering, we all went to a psychologist and they only opened their minds when the woman said that they should accept this, or they were gonna lose a son. I still was their son, the same guy and nothing changed in me, I was the same son that I was when I was a child! I was born gay!

(If I could talk to myself before I came out) I would say to my self: hey kid, you’re gonna suffer A LOT! But don’t worry, it will only prove that you’re strong enought to get through all of this! And trust me, things will get better! You’re gonna be sooooooo happy after all of this hurting situation is over…”

“All of my life I been wading in
Water so deep now we got to swim
Wonder will it ever end
How long how long till we have a friend

Look at me, I just can’t believe,
what they’ve done to me
We could never get free
I just wanna be, I just wanna dream”
Get Free – Major Lazer

Claudio, Market Analyst, São Paulo

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Claudio, in his own words: “I’m writing a new chapter in my life. The pages to come are about learning to leave broken dream behind. These pages may seem painful, bitter and harsh, however it’s just the author’s process to find, among the broken sharp pieces, only the fresh, kind, and beautiful tenderness that bonded us.

If each year of our life were a chapter, I am at the chapter 32. The one I moved to Sao Paulo. The one I had to say goodbye to a beautiful lifetime project. The one I had to say hello to a new life.

New apartment, new job, new meetings, but trying to keep the old same sweetness for new dreams that lie ahead.”

Flavio, Photographer, São Paulo

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Flavio, in his own words: “Wow… tough one this first question…I guess that being gay means being normal, just like being straight. Of course that being gay in today’s world means that you are very likely to face a few challenges that, in theory, straight people wouldn’t face. But I truly don’t feel different just because I’m a man who likes men. I guess I used to feel different when I was younger, but, to be honest, looking back now, I actually believe that this feeling doesn’t necessarily have to do with being gay – I’m just a bit like a fish out of water in the way I behave, think, etc. Yes, being gay might have played a part in this as it meant feeling awkward when I was a kid/teenager but, truth be told, if it wasn’t for the bullying, the awkwardness probably would not have any sort of link with my sexual orientation.

On one hand, yes, being gay means that you are a part of a smaller group in today’s society and therefore it’d be naive to believe that people would treat you like they treat everyone else. Humans tend to respond to everything that is “different” in a very peculiar way (aggressive and negative at most times, unfortunately). But, on the other hand, I couldn’t think of a better time to “be gay” (if that makes sense). We’re not coming out as a group, we are out already. And we have a lot of respect from a lot of people, exactly because they recognize what a battle we had to go through to stand where we are. If we still have a lot to “conquer” in terms of respect, understanding and civil rights? Hell yeah. I speak as a Brazilian gay who comes from a very open minded family. But I know it’s a completely different story in other places, even in my country. But then I’m just being as positive as I can: I’m looking to the glass and I’m thinking it is half full, and not half empty. It will take ages for society to make it a full glass and for everyone to truly accept that not every man desires a woman, but I remember when my generation (at least in Brasil) came out when we were teenagers and what a nightmare that was generally. I have friends that really went through a living hell in their parents’ houses. And I’m not saying that nowadays is an easy thing to do, but we progressed so, so much. 10-15 years ago it was a completely different story.

In terms of challenges, I’m happy to say that the only big “problem” I had for being gay was the fact that I was quite bullied at school. And what an irony: I didn’t even know that I was gay. Kids can be horrible… But a lot of children go through bullying and of course it’s not always because they’re gay. So maybe I would have suffered from this situation anyway, even If I wasn’t a homossexual. I like to believe that I did quite well for someone who really had a disgusting experience at school for such a long period of time (I remember being called nasty things even after high school). I tend to be a bit aggressive, which is a negative aspect of my personality, but it’s how I managed to “survive” and it must be said that this fierceness has helped me so much in so many fields of my life. So no, I wouldn’t change any of the things I went through as a little boy. The cliche is true: what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? I know people that are still dealing with these demons from their childhoods, but I think I already overcame this in a healthy way: I don’t hate people, children, men, society, etc etc. I am very aware of the cruelty that exists in the world, but this perception has only made me more sensitive to the ones that are outcasts in society. I’d say that’s my real success in terms of being gay: the awareness and sensibility towards the others

The gay community in São Paulo is quite diverse at the moment. I think there’s a little treat for everyone… Of course there’s the typical “gay scene” that kinda looks like “Queer as Folk”, but then there’s the hipster scenario, the fancy gays, etc etc. We do have the biggest Gay Parade in the world, but I don’t think most of us are what you would expect from a militant, you know? The parade is just one big crazy day for everyone really… Our community is very Grindr/Tinder-driven at the moment, but very hypocritical when it comes to being open about promiscuous sex. Maybe it is a brazilian thing… we have naked people in tv adverts, soap operas, etc, but we’re still a very conservative country somehow. I lived in London for 3 years and I remember being surprised with the way gay man would live their sexual lives. Even in the clubbing scene: it is ok for a man to go to a kinky club in Europe. Here in Brasil it’s something you probably wouldn’t do or wouldn’t share, even with some of your closest friends. It’s seems silly to me…

Coming out wasn’t a big thing for me. I mean: it did take me ages to do so. I was 19 when I first told a dear friend of mine, who was out already. But once I did it, I just felt free (I guess that’s what most gay man experience, right?) and ended up telling everyone one, including my family and they were quite supportive I’d say. I had never kissed anyone before that (not even a girl), so I guess the biggest problem I had wasn’t being gay, but being a complete weirdo in that sense. Obviously coming out opened doors and possibilities and it didn’t take a lot of time for me to eventually snog someone. Yes, it was a man I think that if I had not gone through bullying at school, coming out could have happened earlier… but who knows??? Maybe the fact that kids used to call me “gay” helped me realise that they were right after all… those bitches… lol…

If I could give an advice to myself before I came out I’d say: you know you are an amazing person behind this big fear of yours, so be brave and show the world and yourself how strong you can be, otherwise you’ll never truly be “complete”. It doesn’t have to do with being gay and hooking up with other man, though that’s a big part of it and quite pleasurable… It has to do with being yourself entirely and letting go of the worst fear of them all: the fear of being happy ps. let us not forget that that’s what the word “gay” means.”

Gustavo, Planning Supervisor, São Paulo

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Gustavo, in his own Portuguese words: “Meu primeiro beijo foi em uma roda de amigos brincando de verdade ou desafio, ainda em Belém do Pará, onde cresci. Na brincadeira, você escolhe entre responder a uma pergunta sobre você ou aceita realizar um desafio proposto pelo grupo. Eu não era muito de falar sobre mim, então preferi ser desafiado. E meu desafio foi beijar uma menina.

Eu não pensava ser gay. Na infância, a maior parte das referências que temos a ser gay são estereotipadas. E nenhum deles se encaixava com o meu cotidiano de garoto nerd, apaixonado por ler, escrever, desenhar e jogar videogame. Ninguém ensina que ser gay não tem tanto a ver com como você age, mas sim com o que você sente.

Foi somente no primeiro ano de faculdade que eu desafiei a mim mesmo a beijar um menino. E comecei a aceitar o que antes eu não tinha muita certeza: sou gay.

Algum tempo depois me apaixonei por um amigo próximo, que se tornou meu primeiro namorado. Eu sempre achei tudo muito natural, não fosse o fato de que, por medo da reação da família dele, eu era apresentado como “o melhor amigo”.

Eu não concordava com aquilo. Não via motivos para mentir. E ao sair do armário para a minha mãe, recebi um conselho que revisito na minha memória até hoje:

“Você é quem você é. Partindo disso, não rotule os outros e não se permita rotular. A sociedade tende a classificar tudo e todos os separando em caixinhas, mas cabe a cada um de nós lembrar ao mundo que somos muito mais do que isso. Orgulhe-se de você”

Hoje vivo em São Paulo e escolhi viver o conselho da minha mãe, que replico aqui: tenha orgulho por ser gay. Tenha orgulho pelo tempo que decidiu dedicar aos estudos e ao trabalho. Tenha orgulho pelas pessoas que conheceu. E pelas pessoas que escolheu manter na minha vida. Tenha orgulho pelas escolhas que fez, pelas experiências que acumulou e pelos sonhos que alimenta. Tenha orgulho por tudo o que já viveu e que faz de você único no mundo.

Não é necessário provar nada para ninguém. Ter orgulho de ser gay faz parte de ter orgulho de quem você é por completo.”

in English:

“My first kiss happened in a circle of friends playing Truth or Dare, still in Belém of Pará where I was brought up. In this game, you choose between answering a question about yourself or accepting to do a dare proposed by the group. Since I wasn’t really the talk about me type, I preferred being challenged. And my dare was kissing a girl.

I didn’t think I was gay. In my childhood, most part of the gay references that we had were very stereotypic. And none of them really matched my nerdy, bookworm, in love with writing, drawing and playing video-games lifestyle.
Nobody teaches you that being gay doesn’t have much to do with how you act, but with how you feel.

It was only during my freshman year in college that I dared myself to kiss a boy.
And I started to accept what before I wasn’t so sure: I’m gay.

Sometime after, I fell in love with a close friend, who later became my boyfriend. I always thought everything was quite natural, despite the fact that, out of fear of his family’s reaction, I was introduced as “the best friend.”

I didn’t agree with that. I didn’t see a reason for lying. And after coming out of the closet to my mom, I got a piece of advice that I still revisit in my memory to this day:

“You are who you are. Starting from this, don’t label others and don’t let yourself be labeled. Society tends to classify everything and everyone by separating them into little boxes, but it’s up to each one of us to remind the world that we’re much more than that. Be proud of yourself”

Today, I live in São Paulo and I chose to live my mom’s advice, that I hereby share: be proud of being gay. Be proud of the time you decided to dedicate to study and work. Be proud of the people you met. And the people you chose to keep in your life. Be proud of the choices you made, of the experiences you collected and the dreams you nourish. Be proud of everything you’ve lived and everything that makes you the only one in the world.

It’s not necessary to prove anything to anyone. Being proud of being gay is part of being proud of who you are through and through.”

Danilo, Assistant Opera Director, São Paulo

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Danilo, in his own Portuguese words:

“Trecho da peça “Coração: Casafechada”
Exerpt from the play “LockedHouse: Heart”

Tó.
Cuida do meu coração?
Presta atenção,
ele é frágil e apodrece logo
Sem carinho ou refrigeração.

Por favor,
Cuida do meu coração?
Cuida, que ele insiste
e bate.
E se bate, é porque não sabe fazer diferente.
É carne nova.

Cuida do meu coração?
Ou como opção,
Faça bifes dele.

Mas se o for comer,
Que o coma cru.
Porque cru ele não responde
E frio ele fica macio e suculento
e realça-se seu sabor.
Sim, coma-o frio.

Porque se se aquece esse meu coração,
ele vai lutar para continuar vivo.
Todos sabem que coração quente é intragável.

Ele vai lutar contra seu estômago e duodeno
Vai entalar na sua garganta
Se instalar no seu ouvido médio e talvez até apodrecer na sua meninge.
Ele era bom aluno e prestava atenção nas aulas de biologia.
Sabe bem se virar.

Meu coração sabe lutar.
Mas cuida do meu coração?
Ele ainda é moleque e às vezes vira para o lado errado
bate em lugares tortos
e luta pelas causas erradas.”

Miro and Filipe, Art Editor and Account Executive, São Paulo

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Miro, in his own words: “(Being gay means)Only a sexual orientation.

Apenas uma orientação sexual.

I had the challenge of facing bullying in adolescence and success to overcome this without trauma.

Tive o desafio de enfrentar bullying na adolescência e o sucesso de superar isto sem traumas.

There are several communities in São Paulo. Mine is quite homely and friendly.

Existem várias comunidades em São Paulo. A minha é bem caseira e amigável.

(Coming out) was easy. I always had very special friends and family.

Foi fácil. Sempre tive amigos e família muito especiais.

(If I could give myself advice before coming out I would say) Come out of the closet as soon as possible, because everyone around you already knows that you are gay.

Saia do armário o mais cedo possível, pois todo mundo ao seu redor já sabe que você é gay.”

Filipe, in his own words: “(Being gay means) Freedom. In the very beginning may not be easy. But accept that and respect youself first of all, is the most important to be happy.

Liberdade. No inicio pode não parecer fácil, mas aceitar isso e se respeitar, em primeiro lugar, é o mais importante pra ser feliz.

There was no challenge about being gay, besides the normal life. But my greatest success was the acceptance of my family and friends and to have found love so early, I hope to take to the end of life.

Não houve nenhum desafio em relação a ser gay, além dos normais da vida. Mas meu maior sucesso foi a aceitação da minha família e amigos e ter encontrado o amor tão cedo, que eu espero poder aproveitar até o fim da vida.

(The gay scene in São Paulo is) Varied to extremes, we have bars and parties for all types from bears to dragqueens.

Diversificada ao extremo, temos bares e festas para todos os tipos, de ursos a dragqueens.

In the beginning (coming out) was very difficult, you do not want to hurt people who are nearby and apparently it’s easier to keep up appearances and stay with people of the opposite sex, but it is not, and you are always under immense pressure, and when you say is such a relief, the next minute you’re light and happy with yourself. Everything was so perfect, the fourth guy I kissed became the man of my life … I do not think would do differently.

No inicio é bem difícil, você não quer magoar as pessoas que estão próximas e aparentemente, é mais fácil manter as aparências e ficar com pessoas do sexo oposto, mas não é, e você fica sempre sob uma pressão imensa, e quando você conta é um alívio infinito, no minuto seguinte você está leve e feliz com você mesmo. Tudo foi tão perfeito e o quarto cara que eu beijei se tornou o homem da minha vida… acho que não faria diferente.”

Edu, Quality Assurance Test Leader, São Paulo

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Edu, in his own words: “I think being gay is just a part of my personality but it is not the main thing about me. I think either gay or straight I would be looking for the same things. You know, I’m a human being who wants to be loved, to grow, to experiment things and so on.
On one hand there is the prejudice explicit or implicit, depending on the culture/city/country you are in, but on the other hand you are free to build your own path in life. You don’t have to necessarily follow the steps the society pre-programmed for you, like to marry, to have kids and to buy a flat in the suburbs. You can choose being single, having an open marriage, spending your money traveling the world because you don’t have kids, or whatever you want to. I notice that many people are afraid of this freedom; they prefer living in the box. For me I see it as a blank canvas I’m free to paint as I please.

My biggest challenge was to go through the bulling I suffered during school time. Bullying is a topic that is much discussed these days, but back in the 80’s it was really complicated to be a shy/nerdy/gay kid. One interesting thing is that I was bullied for being gay before I understand what sexuality was all about or even actually having a sex drive.

My biggest success was to overcome a very limited scenario in which I was born and raised. I was born in a poor family in the suburbs with all its financial difficulties. My parents and grandparents helped me out as much as possible for me to study and to grow as a decent person. I took all chances and I was the first on my family to go to college and have “a real big job”. I am grateful to all of them.

I could define São Paulo gay community in one word: diversity. You can find here the princesses (in Brazil they call them Barbies), bears, indies, hipsters and so on. I find it refreshing because I come from a city in which the only gay archetype that is acceptable it the buffed-all-waxed-suntan-lined-porn-star-look-a-like guy.

Getting out of the closet was complicated just in my head. Once I figured it out and accepted it was all natural. I didn’t have “the conversation” with my mother; my family knew it all along.

(If I could give myself advice before coming out) I would say to myself: “relax and go ahead. It won’t hurt and once you are out they will respect you more than being in the closet.”