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Calvin, Cancer Advocate, Alexandria, Virginia

photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong

Calvin, in his own words:“Would love to be a part of this project. Why you may ask? I’m gay and about to be 54 years old and feel I haven’t accomplish much in life but now want to change that.

All my life I have been a victim of spiritual abuse. I say this because I was raised in a religious home but never felt like I was totally accepted. I knew something was different. I felt this at a very young age, and then I found out I was adopted. Nothing wrong with that. I had an amazing adopted mother who had no idea her son was being abused from a very young age and all that confused me. So much now later, in my years I have dealt with depression, shame, anxiety–all because I feel I’m doomed because I choose to be gay. I’m even in a relationship. It’s been 19 years and I love him very much, but my demons of hell haunts me everyday. But I hope there is truly a light at the end of the tunnel, as I’ve heard it said today.

I have been advocating for anal cancer, I was diagnosed a month after we lost Farrah Fawcett to the same cancer and I was blessed to survive this cancer, this rare cancer that many still don’t want to talk about–but I can’t do that. I have to advocate. I so much want to draw more awareness, it’s definitely needed and I do have some support. Now I made my own facebook page titled, Anal Cancer Is a Pain in the Butt Literally. It has 93 followers and I’m so excited about that. This is something I have to do, we must educate people that this cancer is very real and it’s even on the rise. Plus I know this wasn’t a curse from god, nor did I get it from being an “assf*cker” as one so called supporter told me because I used a ribbon for a profile pic that she felt was hers alone. It’s so much more than a ribbon to me. I would love to be featured here and at the same time get more word out about anal cancer.”

Nicolas and Felipe, Santiago, Chile

photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong

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photo by Kevin Truong

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Nicholás (left) and Felipe (right) photo by Kevin Truong

photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
Felipe (left) and Nicholás (right) photo by Kevin Truong
Nicholás, in his own words: “Para mi ser gay, es poder pasar una serie de obstáculos, obstáculos que si sabes llevar bien, puedes ser inmensamente feliz con lo que realmente te gusta, con la persona que puede hacerte feliz, con todo lo que tu escojas.

“Salir de el closet” no fue realmente un problema, primero por que tengo una mamá la cual siempre ha estado abierta a lo que sea, segundo cuando yo asumí y le dije “Mamá soy gay” ella me respondió con un amable “Hijo si lo sabía”, dice que lo sabe desde que nací. Para el resto de mi familia no fue difícil asumir tampoco, hago que ser gay sea lo mas normal posible, sin tener tabú en lo que hablo con ellos.

Si me hablan de comunidad gay, yo no estoy tan inmerso en ella, pero si me informo sobre el Movilh (Movimiento de Integración y Liberación Homosexual) y puedo darme cuenta que es una comunidad muy activa, siempre haciendo eventos y cosas por el estilo, también se han logrado avances a nivel político y social.

Diría que tomara mas riesgos, que viajara, que conociera y en fin que disfrutara mas de todo lo que te va dando la vida, tanto de personas como de momentos.”

In English:

“For me being gay is to pass a series of obstacles, obstacles if you are to overcome, you can be immensely happy with what it is really like to be the person who is happy with everything you choose.

Coming “Out of the closet” was not really a problem, first because I have a mom that has always been open to whatever, second when I said “Mom I’m gay” she replied with a friendly “Son I knew, “says she knows from birth. For the rest of my family it was not difficult either, me being gay is as normal as possible, without taboo as I talk to them.”

If I talk about the gay community, I am not so immersed in it, but if I reported on Movilh (MOVILH) and I realize that it is a very active community, always doing events and so on, they have also made progress on the political and social level.

(Advice I’d give to my younger self) I would say take more risks, to travel, to know and finally enjoy most of all that which is giving you life, both people and moments.

Felipe, in his own words: “Para mi ser gay es mucho más que una condición netamente sexual, nací gay. Crecí sintiéndome diferente al resto sin saber él porque, cuando recién conocí la palabra gay era utilizada como un insulto con el que se buscaba desprestigiar a alguien, escuchaba a la gente refiriéndose a homosexuales como algo enfermo y anormal, es súper difícil pasar por eso siendo un niño. Ser gay ha significado mucho en todo lo que soy ahora, desde tan chico ir contra la corriente cambia la forma en la que ves el mundo, te da una razón para luchar por lo que crees y así generar un cambio por lo menos en las personas que te rodean.

Asumir uno mismo que es homosexual en una sociedad enferma que impone un prototipo de “normalidad” es difícil. Pero que lo aceptara mi familia fue aún más difícil. Nunca les quise decir directamente “Papá, mamá, soy gay” porque sentí que no era necesario. A los 15 años me puse a pololear con la intención de que lo asumieran por si solos y cuando se dieron cuenta me hicieron la vida imposible, pero de alguna forma tenía que hacerlos darse cuenta que los únicos que tenían que cambiar eran ellos y sus prejuicios retrogradas, y así fue. Ahora llevo dos años pololeando con el Nico y ya es como parte de mi familia.

La verdad es que no me gusta cuando se habla de “comunidad gay” porque personalmente no me siento parte de ella, no tengo mucha relación con más homosexuales aparte de mi pololo. Participo en marchas por el respeto y matrimonio igualitario, se han logrado avances legales importantes en el último tiempo y creo que es necesario ser parte de este proceso en el que Chile está de a poquito cambiando.

Si pudiera decirle algo a mi yo del pasado.. No te canses de buscar la verdad ni dejes de cuestionarte las cosas. La vida es demasiado hermosa para desperdiciarla y hay demasiados sueños por cumplir, no dejes que nada ni nadie acabe con ellos.”

In English:

“For me being gay is much more than a purely sexual condition, I was born gay. I grew up feeling different from others without knowing it because, when I first heard the word gay it was used as an insult with which sought to discredit someone, I heard people referring to homosexuals as something sick and abnormal, it is extremely difficult to go through that being a child. Being gay has meant much to what I am now, since the young buck in the system changes the way you see the world, gives you a reason to fight for what you believe and generate a change at least in people around you.

Taking yourself to be homosexual in a sick society that imposes a prototype of “normality” is difficult. Acceptance from my family was even harder. I never wanted to directly say “Dad, Mom, I’m gay” because I felt it was not necessary. At age 15 I began a relationship, and it made my parents realize that the only ones who had to change were them and their prejudices, and it was. Now I have two years been in a relationship with Nico and he’s like part of my family.

The truth is that I do not like when you talk about “gay community” because I do not personally feel a part of it, I have little relationship with other gays than my boyfriend. I’ve participated in marches for respect and equal marriage, there have been significant legal developments in recent times and I think you need to be part of this process in which Chile is changing little by little.

If I could say something to my past .. Do not tire of seeking truth or questioning things. Life is too beautiful to waste with too many dreams to fulfill, do not let anything or anyone end up with them.”

Alejandro and Ernesto, Buenos Aires, Argentina

Alejandro (left) and Ernesto (right), photo by Kevin Truong
Ernesto (left) and Alejandro (right), photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
Alejandro and Ernesto, photo by Kevin Truong
Ernesto and Alejandro, photo by Kevin Truong
Ernesto, in his own words: “(Being gay) Significa una vida en libertad para vivir tu sexualidad de la forma más natural posible.

La ley de Matrimonio Igualitario que logramos en Argentina fue el desafío más notable que hemos tenido los homosexuales no solo en nuestro querida patria sino también en toda América.

Nunca tuve que salir del placard porque nunca me sentí adentro. Lo que sí hicimos con mi marido, fue iniciar el camino para lograr la sanción de la ley que mencioné anteriormente. La exposición mediática por ese tema, me dio más fuerza y convicción acerca de quién soy y lo que quiero

(The Gay community in Buenos Aires) Muy variada, muy ecléctica. Desde las personas trans hasta los/las homosexuales con aspecto hétero, las diferencias son enormes. Pero podemos ponernos rápidamente de acuerdo cuando hay que luchar por el respeto que nos merecemos solo por ser seres humanos.

(Advice I’d give my younger self) Nunca pierdan las esperanzas de vivir en un mundo mejor.”

In English:

“(Being gay) means a life of freedom to live your sexuality in the most natural way possible.
 
Equal Marriage Laws we achieved in Argentina was the most significant challenge we’ve had for homosexuals not only in our beloved country but throughout America.

I never had to leave the closet because I never felt inside. What I did with my husband we did was to start the way for the enactment of the law that I mentioned earlier. The media exposure for the subject, gave me more strength and conviction about who I am and what I want.

(The gay community in Buenos Aires is) Varied, eclectic. With trans people up to / with hetero homosexual aspect, the differences are huge. But we quickly agreed to fight for the respect we deserve just because we are all human.

(Advice I’d give my younger self) Never lose hope of living in a better world.”