Teo, in his own words:“To be gay is such a small part of my daily affairs. It just mean that I had to understand earlier than most people about how and who I love. I had to come up with my own answers about the world since no one around me in my family had anything to help me (and I resent that)
(The community in São Paulo) depends on who you are and where do you go. If you are skinny and gorgeous you are welcomed anywhere. If you are chubby and less atractive people will set barriers. It’s like a giant highschool like most big cities. But you can always find great people to hang out with, and that’s what is makes all worth it.
(With regards to coming out) I gave a speech to my mother, she forced me to talk about it and I told her I was a scared and alone kid with doubts that had grown into a full nice person and she had no right to deal with this with less awesomeness.
(If I could give advice to myself before coming out, I’d say) dont reject help. people do love you, stop waiting the worse always.”
Silvio, in his own words:“Being gay means for me being me, means being human. There’s no meaning, it’s just like being straight. A normal thing!
It was really hard for me to be accepted by my parents, this could be considered as a challenge, but I also consider it as a success. After they knew about it and the dog days were over, I could finally be myself without caring about others opinions. The only people whose opinions was relevant was the people I love and respect.
The gay community in São Paulo is really full of people wanting to be famous, rich, or trying to show they are, even if they aren’t. But I can’t say only the bad things. The Gay community here is really free. After bad thing happened, the attack of homophobics ceased. You can find gay people walking hand in hand on malls, some streets and avenues, supermarkets etc. There’s also a big gay nightlife scene that has got the best parties and clubs!
To come out of the closet was REALLY hard. The moment I told my parents, the chaos was established in my house. My father almost died and my mother cried about a week without stopping. They tried to convince me that I should think better about my “decision” and after I told them that there was no decision, my mom became angry and started to be aggressive. Due to all the suffering, we all went to a psychologist and they only opened their minds when the woman said that they should accept this, or they were gonna lose a son. I still was their son, the same guy and nothing changed in me, I was the same son that I was when I was a child! I was born gay!
(If I could talk to myself before I came out) I would say to my self: hey kid, you’re gonna suffer A LOT! But don’t worry, it will only prove that you’re strong enought to get through all of this! And trust me, things will get better! You’re gonna be sooooooo happy after all of this hurting situation is over…”
“All of my life I been wading in
Water so deep now we got to swim
Wonder will it ever end
How long how long till we have a friend
Look at me, I just can’t believe,
what they’ve done to me
We could never get free
I just wanna be, I just wanna dream”
Get Free – Major Lazer
Claudio, in his own words:“I’m writing a new chapter in my life. The pages to come are about learning to leave broken dream behind. These pages may seem painful, bitter and harsh, however it’s just the author’s process to find, among the broken sharp pieces, only the fresh, kind, and beautiful tenderness that bonded us.
If each year of our life were a chapter, I am at the chapter 32. The one I moved to Sao Paulo. The one I had to say goodbye to a beautiful lifetime project. The one I had to say hello to a new life.
New apartment, new job, new meetings, but trying to keep the old same sweetness for new dreams that lie ahead.”