Erastes, Mississippi

photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
Erastes, in his own words: “We are more than who we are or who we want to be or who we will become. We have always been more–more than our attributes, our identities, and our flaws. Upon a cursory glance, one would be tempted, convinced even that we were made to be free to our will. Yet, through a deeper examination of our lives, every aspect of our lives, we will realize our lives are not our own. We belong to others, and they belong to us. We belong to each other, and we are compelled to love one another, no matter how subtle or gentle the innate longing. Still the urge for something greater than ourselves is there: the love of all people, not for the sake of being loved in return but for the mere sake of loving them because they need to be loved. I cannot begin to disclose the profundity in my mundane and simple life, but I do see it in the sunrise and the sunset, in the blooming flower, in another’s smile; hear it in my nephew’s laugh, my niece’s coo; and feel it in my mother’s love and my father’s and my grandmother’s and my friends’–all of my friends’ love. And in such wondrous moments, I am in awe at how much greater life is than me, and I know that I am supposed to live for that which is greater than me, as I believe we all are. And no matter how lost or despairing we may be, the fact remains that we are greater than our desires, greater than our sufferings, because we are a part of a universal, endless, unbridled, undying, relentless love that makes us greater than our greatest strengths and stronger than our strongest weaknesses. And so, I say to you, whoever you may be, wherever you are, that I love you, though I may never know you, and that you were meant to be a part of something greater than either of us is or will ever be. Therefore, whenever you look hopelessness in the face, remain steadfast and continue loving without ceasing, for you are more than who you are, more than who you want to be, more than who you will or long to become. You are a part of a cosmic, selfless love that is experienced by dying to yourself and living for others. Now, go and love and serve others.”

11 comments

  1. Jem

    Wow! Philosopher King! You look far too young to have come to this amazing conclusion which is so in line with the true Christian gospel though you have gone for a more New Age approach so the wording is acceptable to all rather than limited to the way of Christ. Very interesting and could start a whole debate on your views as opposed to those of Jesus and actually how much they are the same. I love it, and love you too, dear Erastes!

  2. Gary

    thank you for sharing your thoughtful and eloquent gift with the world. I’m curious: did your parents give you the name of “lover,” or did you choose it? In either case, it “fits” the words you shared.

      • Gary

        I promise not to tell :-) My middle name “Asher” was given to me by my parents, for which I am grateful. In Hebrew it means “one who is blest to be a blessing to others.” Sort of in the same league as “lover,” don’t you think?

        Agape, eros, and philia,
        Gary from Cleveland

  3. Al

    Your eloquent words and your profound wisdom have been in the back of my mind these past few hours since you shared your story. In effect, you have deeply moved me to go deeper within myself. Also, I don’t believe your supposedly “Christian gospel/New Age approach” would start a debate. In my opinion, and please enlighten me if I’m incorrect, your message is a very simple one, “love one another”. In doing so, we die to ourselves. Question: have you ever published your thoughts? In this matter, I am your Eromenos – educate me.

    • Erastes

      Yes, you are right. I am merely saying that all people, regardless of who they are, should love one another, even those they deem to be their enemies. Love is the strongest of all cosmic forces, and even though it cannot be empirically measured, it can be felt by all people in all cultures and societies throughout the world. Moreover, all humans, for the most part, acknowledge that it exists! And interestingly enough, in this world filled with so much evil and hatred, love is the only remedy. When we take a moment to reflect on our lives and think of all the moments that we have spent speaking ill of others, gossiping, making fun of others, or committing acts of violence against our fellow man, we could potentially add up a considerable amount of wasted time. Just think if everyone in the world, instead, dedicated this time to loving others and to building them up, rather than tearing them down, the world and all of its citizens would benefit tremendously.

  4. Richard

    Thanks for sharing your ideas on love, life, and how are all connected to something bigger than ourselves.

    Hard to believe you are in Batesville, Mississippi. (I pose that observation with first-hand experience, as I grew up in that town.) Seems you have discovered or created a sense of peace with yourself and the world I had to leave there to find.

    Namate,

    Richard

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