Kevin, in his own words: “Being gay does not completely define who I am. Yes it is a part of me but it does not change nor affect the way I see the world or interact with it. The only real challenge that I had with being homosexual was whether or not it was a natural part of life. After I was able to over come the fact that no matter how much treatment or medication I was going to go through it would not change the fact that I liked other men.
The gay community in Vancouver is a very diverse community which is able to address many of the issues that face both young and old LGTBQ within the community. It is a very supportive community and I’ve known about it since high school which made it a bit easier when I did come out. My coming out story was quite bazaar but I believe everything happened for a reason and it made it much easier for me to be able to come out to my family. We had a gathering with my family and some of my closest friends one evening, as one drink lead to another I found one of my girl friends getting rather comfortable with my mother and my mother has whispered into her ear. “Is my son gay?” and she had answered “Yes” immediately the crowd had went from inebriated and intoxicated to complete sober when she had answered yes. The following day seemed quite awkward but as the day drew to an end my mother had opened her mouth and finally said “No matter what your orientation is, as a parent I still love you no matter what, if anything even more so then ever”. After that I was finally able to accept myself.
If I could give myself advice before coming out I would’ve told myself; “you should really believe in yourself before jumping to a conclusion that the family would abandon you, also if you do come out to your family you must always believe that they will still love you”. I think this advice would save me all the troubles of feeling negative towards myself.”