Marcus, in his own words:“No one was born twice, so live and enjoy your life at its best” one of my friends said. It lingered in my mind from a long time ago and I decided to come out with my family last year. My sister who is living in Germany came home to visit and on the occasion of Tet Holiday in 2013. I cannot forget that dinner. After meal, my father told us that he would buy me and my sister a house for each after selling his house with the purpose that It would help me to stabilize my life there in Ho Chi Minh city. I explained that now I am happy with my life and I would not get married with a girl to have the family. He was shocked from the beginning and he kept quiet. I really wanted to tell him long time ago, but for the fact that I was not so happy with my living and I was a bit stressed with my career so I did not make it happen. Since my mother’s stroke in 2011, I was so depressed and found out that If I do not make a move to change my life, I may not have chance to exposure to live as the way I like. And, coming out seemed to be the very best decision I have ever made. At the moment, I am enjoying life the most ever.
I am working in the education industry and I have had chance to visit a lot of countries and I have some comparison with the Gay Community. LGBT in Ho Chi Minh city is not mature, it is not easy to be found any long term relationship here. With the development of the smart phones and the applications, LGBT mainly use them to seek for the hook-ups. The majority is trying to be obvious and showing off too much instead of better their life by getting promoted at work. The floating part of the ice is not reflecting the truth which is lying deep beneath.
I am not so proud of/feeling sorry to be a gay. But, what I have found the meaning of life is how I can enjoy my life. I am what I am. I do not pretend to be someone else and act as the way people want me to. I have a good job, living independently and I own some good friends, and get my family’s loving me after my decision to come out.”