Alden, in his own words: “My coming out had stages, the first of which was coming out to myself. Accepting my sexuality has been, so far, my biggest hurdle in life. I’m extremely self-critical, and I’m hard on myself because I set my own expectations too high. Growing up, I was told gay people were different, lesser-than, and worthy of ridicule. I just couldn’t be one of the people everyone makes fun of.
Watching coming out stories on YouTube really helped me put my feelings and experience into context, but I wanted to see that it’s actually like to tell someone you’re gay.When I started to come out to friends and family, I decided to film it so I could create the film I wanted so badly to see. That became a feature-length documentary called COMING OUT. It’s a raw look at how an entire family adjusts that also shows what happens after telling someone you’re gay.
The “gay community” terrified me before I started talking to LGBTQ folks. I’m a pretty shy person, so I haven’t gone out to experience the community enough for me to draw generalities that aren’t superficial. No matter what scope you look at, from the larger LGBTQ community to smaller communities within each of those letters, there is an enormous diversity of people, especially here in New York.
I guess I would say that gayness or queerness seems to be more of a loose connecter than something that binds a community together. I could be wrong though.”
Check out the film here: Coming Out