Dan, in his own words: “(Being gay) Doesn’t rule my life as I consider myself and Dennis to be just like other guys with the difference being sexual desire. I have not as of yet faced blatant discrimination as a gay man, however, I am aware of comments made by people who do not know that I am a gay man. When I ask for benefits or apply for anything involving administration changes for my spouse, I am always asked “what is your wife’s name?” Seems that America is still not used to same sex marriage.
I never had an official coming out event but just started being more honest with people who wanted to know. Certainly surviving Sept 11th, 2001 made my decision to be more open a fact.
New York is not truly representative of what gay men are really like. There seems to be a lot of the bad traits here in New York City with alcohol, drug, substance abuse and lack of self esteem taking a front seat. So many young men gravitate to NYC to escape their inability to be who they want in their original locales. Being gay is not all about vanity, clubs, living in gay neighborhoods, only hanging out with gay men and only frequenting gay establishments. It seems that our desire to be only amongst our own kind leads to a line between us and the heterosexual community.”